The Other Side of Mother’s Day

“Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.”
    – (Romans 12:15)

While Mother’s Day is a wonderful day to honor and celebrate our wives and mothers, for many Mother’s Day can be one of the toughest days of the year. It is the only holiday I know of that some women avoid church on purpose.

Pastors, here is an excellent article by Shannon Woodward on how to minister to hurting women on Mother’s Day. I encourage you to read it before Sunday in order to grow in your own understanding and sensitivity of the hurt that this day can hold for many women.

Shannon suggests that if you are going to give gifts on Sunday, that you give them to all the adult women present . I have done this at our church by simply saying, “In honor of our mothers this morning, we have gifts for all the women in our church age 18 or older.”

I especially like her suggestions for ways that we can show appreciation for all the women in our church:

  • We’re thankful God made women to be nurturers
  • We’re thankful God made women to be teachers
  • We’re thankful God made women to be encouragers
  • We’re thankful God made women to be tender-hearted
  • We’re thankful God made women to be counselors
  • We’re thankful God made women to be compassionate
  • We’re thankful God made women to be gentle

The women over at the GirlTalk blog have also written a number of articles addressing the various sadnesses women can face on Mother’s Day. If this is a tough weekend for you, you may find the following articles helpful:

“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.” (2 Corinthians 1:3-4)

HT: Between Two Worlds

3 Comments

  1. Margaret says:

    I like the suggestions re: Mother’s Day services. I have often ached in my heart when a Pastor asks all the mothers in the church to stand and receive flowers, and I see single women and childless women sitting down. How it must hurt them. To honor all women is the right thing to do, and to honor our own mothers who may have passed on but still so dear in our memories.

    We have a dear lady in our church who is 98, and though she never had children, her caring heart and lovely Christian compassion have made her like a mother to many. Such women deserve special honor on Mother’s Day and all days.

  2. Laney says:

    I am one of those women who for years avoided church on Mother’s Day. It’s a painful day on many levels. We have children in heaven that we miss dearly. My mother passed away 6 years ago on Mother’s Day and I miss her terribly. These are wounds that are re-opened every year on this day. But most painful of all are the years of Mother’s Day celebrations when I longed to be a mother & was unable. The pain of infertility is unlike any loss or grief I have ever known. And even though I left the world of the infertile almost 18 years ago, that pain is still with me and runs very deep. It’s a grief and loss that is all the more painful because it’s not acknowledged or validated. There’s no casket, no time for mourning, no sympathy cards. Yet month after month, year after tedious year, the hope and longing to be a mother just keeps growing. And month after month the infertile woman faces the silent death of her most precious dream, all the while those around her celebrate the fulfillment of theirs.

    Thank you for your sensitivity to women who grieve on Mother’s Day for so many reasons.

  3. Ray Fowler says:

    Thanks, Laney, for sharing. It is important for all of us to hear stories like yours so that we can learn to be more sensitive to the hurts and needs of others.

    God bless,
    Ray

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