Comments on: Losing a Husband in Old Age

By: Ray Fowler

Ray Fowler — Mon, 19 May 2008 14:51:15 +0000

Debbie - I am sorry for your loss. I know this must leave such a big hole in your life right now. I pray that God will comfort you at this time and that you may find the support you need from your church family. God bless.

By: Debbie

Debbie — Sun, 18 May 2008 22:34:44 +0000

I lost my husband of 26 yrs. on 4/6/08. He had synovial sarcoma a cancerous tumor in his right left leg and it metasized to his lungs. he went though two years of 500 hrs. of chemo..9 months of protocol drugs and them had his leg removed last sept. and was put on chemo by mouth. He was a trooper and never once waiverd from his faith. Sure several times he said why me Lord but he usually came around and said you know why Lord and that is good enough for me. He witnessed continually through it all..He was 56 yrs. old and I miss him so very much. We were truly soul mates and I ache inside…we have a local church and church family with some major issues going on.

By: Ray Fowler

Ray Fowler — Thu, 08 May 2008 01:21:32 +0000

John - Thanks for sharing. I love your heart, brother.

By: John Ayan

John Ayan — Thu, 08 May 2008 00:13:44 +0000

Ray, thanks for the song. You know, whether a person has been married for 60 years or 13 years, when I lost my first wife, the pain is so unbearable, you don’t think you’ll survive. I turned to God after 3 miserable months of despair and stopping on the way home for a drink to ease the pain. The drink didn’t work, but God did. It was almost immediately after deciding to return to church that I met Elayne, my present wife. God allowed us to begin a new story for me. Yes, the pain of loss still continues, but less than before. I still wake in the morning and for some reason, a song, a thought, something I’m doing will bring me back to THAT day when all was lost. I still cry occasionally, but again, not as often. I can talk about it easier and reflect on it as well. I try to live without regrets and remember that each day is precious and perhaps my last one. So, live on in God and cling tightly to Him.

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A La Carte (5/7) Evangelical Perspective| Today In Theology — Wed, 07 May 2008 14:21:34 +0000

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By: Barrie

Barrie — Tue, 06 May 2008 23:03:30 +0000

Ray, thanks for being there for Verniece. I know that she will grieve for her loss. She is fortunate to have a visiting Pastor that understands her sorrow and is willing to take the time to minister to her.