Comments on: 8 Great Family Rules to Help Any Home http://www.rayfowler.org/2007/06/12/eight-great-family-rules-to-help-any-home/ Thoughts on God and life from a Christian perspective Thu, 18 Mar 2010 00:50:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Ray Fowler http://www.rayfowler.org/2007/06/12/eight-great-family-rules-to-help-any-home/#comment-8360 Ray Fowler Wed, 17 Mar 2010 00:47:54 +0000 http://www.rayfowler.org/2007/06/12/eight-great-family-rules-for-any-home/#comment-8360 <b>Sandra</b> - Parenting teens is always a challenge. I always encourage parents to follow the three C's: 1) Clear rules, 2) Clear consequences 3) Consistency. Make sure your daughter understands your rules or expectations. Make sure she understands what the consequences will be if she does not do what you tell her. Then be consistent in following through every time. At the same time love her, pray for her, and encourage her. And be sure to affirm her when she does follow the rules. Sandra – Parenting teens is always a challenge. I always encourage parents to follow the three C’s:

1) Clear rules,
2) Clear consequences
3) Consistency.

Make sure your daughter understands your rules or expectations. Make sure she understands what the consequences will be if she does not do what you tell her. Then be consistent in following through every time. At the same time love her, pray for her, and encourage her. And be sure to affirm her when she does follow the rules.

]]> By: sandra http://www.rayfowler.org/2007/06/12/eight-great-family-rules-to-help-any-home/#comment-8335 sandra Fri, 12 Mar 2010 21:42:16 +0000 http://www.rayfowler.org/2007/06/12/eight-great-family-rules-for-any-home/#comment-8335 i am mother deaf. my daughter almost 14 year old in april 9th. she is hearing and very good sign language. she have hard time with me bec she wont listen to me what i tell her what to do with clean up the kitchen, clean the cage,toilet, living room, and etc.. i need write the list rule for her help looking the board the rule. she refuse go church with me. what i can do for her name jessica. i am stress so much. i need your help. she is ADHD. i am mother deaf. my daughter almost 14 year old in april 9th. she is hearing and very good sign language. she have hard time with me bec she wont listen to me what i tell her what to do with clean up the kitchen, clean the cage,toilet, living room, and etc.. i need write the list rule for her help looking the board the rule. she refuse go church with me. what i can do for her name jessica. i am stress so much. i need your help. she is ADHD.

]]> By: Ray Fowler http://www.rayfowler.org/2007/06/12/eight-great-family-rules-to-help-any-home/#comment-8125 Ray Fowler Mon, 01 Feb 2010 22:20:26 +0000 http://www.rayfowler.org/2007/06/12/eight-great-family-rules-for-any-home/#comment-8125 <b>Nadya</b> - Nadya, I am sorry things are not well with your family right now. I will be praying for you. Nadya – Nadya, I am sorry things are not well with your family right now. I will be praying for you.

]]> By: nadya http://www.rayfowler.org/2007/06/12/eight-great-family-rules-to-help-any-home/#comment-8120 nadya Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:16:55 +0000 http://www.rayfowler.org/2007/06/12/eight-great-family-rules-for-any-home/#comment-8120 my family such are bad family like to use bad word!something i get mad wif my mom and dad!they don understand the kid at all!my family is are bad family you KNOW!i hope you all can give some tip for my family!thank you! my family such are bad family like to use bad word!something i get mad wif my mom and dad!they don understand the kid at all!my family is are bad family you KNOW!i hope you all can give some tip for my family!thank you!

]]> By: Ray Fowler http://www.rayfowler.org/2007/06/12/eight-great-family-rules-to-help-any-home/#comment-8050 Ray Fowler Tue, 19 Jan 2010 22:13:39 +0000 http://www.rayfowler.org/2007/06/12/eight-great-family-rules-for-any-home/#comment-8050 <b>Troy</b> - Thanks for sharing about your situation, and thank you for the wonderful ministry of adoption in these two boys' lives. Parenting is never easy, but the rewards are great. God bless! Troy – Thanks for sharing about your situation, and thank you for the wonderful ministry of adoption in these two boys’ lives. Parenting is never easy, but the rewards are great. God bless!

]]> By: Troy P http://www.rayfowler.org/2007/06/12/eight-great-family-rules-to-help-any-home/#comment-8046 Troy P Sun, 17 Jan 2010 16:16:42 +0000 http://www.rayfowler.org/2007/06/12/eight-great-family-rules-for-any-home/#comment-8046 I have really enjoyed and picked up some great ideas from your web sight, thanks. My wife and I adopted 2 children (boys) from Ukrain about 8 years ago. it has been a struggle to say the least but we have learned alot in those years about how to handle different situations. right now i am trying something new. we are haveing problems with one of them stealing money from us. so we are setting up court. I have come up with a list of house laws and minimum and maximum consequences. if they are accused of breaking a law we will have court and they will have a chance to defend themselves. then the judge (my wife or I) will pass down the judgment. I am hoping this will give them a chance to see why what they did was wrong and that consequences are allways going to be associated with doing something wrong. we let them have 1 day to prepare for the trial (this gives them time to settle down and think about it ) we are trying to make this kind of fun for them as well as teaching them right from wrong in the process. the boys have a disorder called RAD, it is Reactive attachment disorder. basicly they didnt get the love and affection they needed as baby's and didnt form an attachment to adults because of it. they dont trust we will give them what they need (Love, as well as material things) so we have to throw everything we knew or thought we knew about parenting out the window and start from scratch. the boys have come a long way, but i am sure we will always have some sort of situation to deal with. thats called being a parent. I have really enjoyed and picked up some great ideas from your web sight, thanks. My wife and I adopted 2 children (boys) from Ukrain about 8 years ago. it has been a struggle to say the least but we have learned alot in those years about how to handle different situations. right now i am trying something new. we are haveing problems with one of them stealing money from us. so we are setting up court. I have come up with a list of house laws and minimum and maximum consequences. if they are accused of breaking a law we will have court and they will have a chance to defend themselves. then the judge (my wife or I) will pass down the judgment. I am hoping this will give them a chance to see why what they did was wrong and that consequences are allways going to be associated with doing something wrong. we let them have 1 day to prepare for the trial (this gives them time to settle down and think about it ) we are trying to make this kind of fun for them as well as teaching them right from wrong in the process. the boys have a disorder called RAD, it is Reactive attachment disorder. basicly they didnt get the love and affection they needed as baby’s and didnt form an attachment to adults because of it. they dont trust we will give them what they need (Love, as well as material things) so we have to throw everything we knew or thought we knew about parenting out the window and start from scratch. the boys have come a long way, but i am sure we will always have some sort of situation to deal with. thats called being a parent.

]]> By: Ray Fowler http://www.rayfowler.org/2007/06/12/eight-great-family-rules-to-help-any-home/#comment-8018 Ray Fowler Tue, 10 Nov 2009 19:17:39 +0000 http://www.rayfowler.org/2007/06/12/eight-great-family-rules-for-any-home/#comment-8018 <b>Christi</b> - I think it's best to start out with verbal corrections. Keep a positive atmosphere and make sure the child understands the rules. If they just slip up once in a while, verbal corrections should be all you need. If the child consistently breaks the rules, then you may need to move on to loss of a privilege. We have also used timeouts and spankings for continued misbehavior, but I understand those may not be allowed by the state with foster children. I hope that helps! Christi – I think it’s best to start out with verbal corrections. Keep a positive atmosphere and make sure the child understands the rules. If they just slip up once in a while, verbal corrections should be all you need. If the child consistently breaks the rules, then you may need to move on to loss of a privilege. We have also used timeouts and spankings for continued misbehavior, but I understand those may not be allowed by the state with foster children. I hope that helps!

]]> By: Christi http://www.rayfowler.org/2007/06/12/eight-great-family-rules-to-help-any-home/#comment-8016 Christi Mon, 09 Nov 2009 06:13:08 +0000 http://www.rayfowler.org/2007/06/12/eight-great-family-rules-for-any-home/#comment-8016 I am curious to hear suggestions to what the consquences for breaking these rules would be. We are foster parents and have two biological children. The state suggests NO TIME OUTS, I always agree in discussion to the childs level but I also think there should be more. I am curious to hear suggestions to what the consquences for breaking these rules would be. We are foster parents and have two biological children. The state suggests NO TIME OUTS, I always agree in discussion to the childs level but I also think there should be more.

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